A name

I was reading the blog of Liz (http://lizbendalin.blogspot.com/) and was struck by her discussion of the title "transgendered". That is such an important "label" that I feel the need to comment. Liz, you are so right-on. A transexual may also be transgendered but a TG need not be transexual. That is, gender is a mind-set and sex is a set of physical parameters. A friend once told me that : "gender is here (points to head) and sex is here (points to groin)." The distinction is profound. In one sense, a sexual inversion is life-threatening and can only be resolved through surgery. However, a gender inversion is somewhat statistical (75% feminine?) and can be dealt with through counseling and behavior modification to bring a person more or less peace.

Read Liz's blog. It is serious and helpful.

Who am I?

Who, indeed am I? For that matter, who is any TG/CD? It would seem that we are presented with a choice of at least two personalities or even two persona. However, I do not subscribe to that position; I am simply the one who I am. In the simplest of words: TG is who I am and CD is what I do. I think I can effectively separate the two.

Regarding TG: I visualize a wide spectrum of gender ranging from Rambo (Yo!) to Doris Day (Gush!). All of us occupy a space somewhere along this line. My place is a merely closer to Doris than it is to Rambo. It's as simple as that. I enjoy "guy stuff" but I also like to cook and soak in a tub of bubbles. I do not hunt and do not wear muscle shirts and spit tobacco. I do participate in reflective group sessions on Scripture and shave my legs.

Regarding CD: I dress just about every chance I get and going out has become a necessary part of the entire image for me. In cool weather I often wear thigh-highs in place of socks and wear feminine flats if I will be among strangers. I also wear only masculine shirts and pants and look no different than most other guys. I do not feel like anyone other myself when I wear a dress although I simply love the good feelings that are released within me.

Am I unusual or are you in the same place as I am? Please comment.