Who, indeed am I? For that matter, who is any TG/CD? It would seem that we are presented with a choice of at least two personalities or even two persona. However, I do not subscribe to that position; I am simply the one who I am. In the simplest of words: TG is who I am and CD is what I do. I think I can effectively separate the two.
Regarding TG: I visualize a wide spectrum of gender ranging from Rambo (Yo!) to Doris Day (Gush!). All of us occupy a space somewhere along this line. My place is a merely closer to Doris than it is to Rambo. It's as simple as that. I enjoy "guy stuff" but I also like to cook and soak in a tub of bubbles. I do not hunt and do not wear muscle shirts and spit tobacco. I do participate in reflective group sessions on Scripture and shave my legs.
Regarding CD: I dress just about every chance I get and going out has become a necessary part of the entire image for me. In cool weather I often wear thigh-highs in place of socks and wear feminine flats if I will be among strangers. I also wear only masculine shirts and pants and look no different than most other guys. I do not feel like anyone other myself when I wear a dress although I simply love the good feelings that are released within me.
Am I unusual or are you in the same place as I am? Please comment.
2 comments:
I couldn't agree with you more. My being TG is something that I am proud of, as is my being a CD. I could never separate the two. I like your TG - who I am, CD - what I do. I may use that in the future, if I can.
Of course you may use that comment about who we are and what we do. I feel very strongly about it.
As I read your website I am impressed by your eagerness to develop an outreach ministry. It is so rare that I see a t-girl who wants to put herself in the real mainstream with the intention of changing the world even a little. I can come up with many excuses for not doing that myself but I must admit that they are only excuses.
As I reflect on it, TG/CD is usually a solitary place and we tend to seek fulfillment on a very personal level. Rarely do we extend ourselves to our larger community. "Coming out" is something of a statistical process in the sense that we often do it gradually and to specified levels.But coming out is not the same as taking our place in the the larger community. I stand in respect for you and your wife.
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